How can counselling help you?

Relationship Tune Up

It's not just troubled relationships that can benefit from a tune up. It can be great to start out in a positive way, by learning what to expect over the longterm. It can make all the difference to come together as a couple and start out on the same page. Head over to the case studies to give you some ideas and see if you want to give it a go.


Trauma can have significant negative effects without the right support. It can cause symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, exhaustion, sleep problems, lack of concentration, nervousness or hyper-vigilance, and general lack of trust. Feeling like that can impact on your daily life. If you relate to any of these symptoms you may benefit from counselling.  It can be helpful to gain an understanding of what is happening and to be supported in learning some helpful coping strategies.

Sexual Abuse

If you have experienced sexual violation and notice troubled thoughts, behaviours and feelings, then you may benefit from counselling. Struggling alone with the effects of sexual abuse can cause depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress symptoms and a complex range of difficulties if left unsupported. I am an ACC Sensitive Claims provider, however I am no longer taking new ACC Sensitive Claims clients. You are most likely eligible for counselling with fees paid by ACC. If you can afford to pay for sessions and do not want ACC counselling, I will continue to work with sexual abuse. You need to be aware that this is long term work, so affordability could be difficult and in that case I would suggest you find an ACC registered counsellor.


Anxiety can develop for a number of reasons.  It can be hereditary.  It can also be caused by a traumatic event or events. It can be caused by ongoing stress that never lets up. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), involves exploring possible triggers and learning to change patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. Understanding yourself and why you react as you do can be helpful when learning new coping strategies. Counselling can make a positive difference.


If you notice that you can no longer do what you used to do, or don’t feel like doing much at all, have feelings of excessive sadness or a lack of drive and motivation, you may be depressed. It is important that you don’t suffer alone. Talking through these feelings can help you identify what is happening and learn useful coping strategies – there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Low self-esteem and confidence

Are you hard on yourself? Do you find that you are afraid to be who you really are for fear of being put down? Do you regularly tell yourself that you are useless or hopeless? Perhaps you could benefit from self-esteem building. Learning to like yourself can be an empowering way to gain confidence and tackle things you may not have thought you could do before.

Relationship difficulties

Whether it be with an intimate partner, friends or family, when communication breaks down and problems that life throws at you are not resolved, the negative impact can be significant. Learning techniques to improve connections in your important relationships is a worthwhile investment for your future together. Counselling can provide support to make positive changes.

Adoption issues

Adoption is complex and can bring with it, painful feelings for those who are a part of that process. There are three sides to the adoption process – the adoptee, the biological family and the adopting family (often talked about as the adoption triangle). Feelings of rejection and abandonment can arise if you are adopted. Unresolved infertility can be difficult for adoptive parents. Grief and loss are painful feelings for the birth parent(s). Therapy with an experienced counsellor can provide support for all people involved in the adoption triangle.

Grief and loss

It is normal to feel sad, angry and alone at times when you experience a deep sense of loss. Grief and loss can occur as a result of many life experiences, such as death, loss of a job, loss of a pet, loss of a home to mention a few. If you are experiencing feelings that are overwhelming or becoming too difficult to manage,  counselling can support you in working through your grief.

Stress management

If stress is becoming excessive, perhaps exploring the balance in your current circumstances would be beneficial. Maybe you are past being able to see the wood for the trees. Counselling can support you in regaining a sense of balance in your life so that daily activities can be put into a manageable perspective and enjoyed again.

Sexuality and gender identity

Children and young people often say they knew from a young age that they are gay or gender diverse.  I notice in my practice that I am talking more often to young people about their thoughts and feelings regarding their gender identity and sexuality.  It can be a difficult conversation to have for fear of prejudice and a lack of understanding by those close to you. There is support available. In Auckland, you can contact Rainbow Youth or InsideOUT. Refer to Links for websites.

You can contact me on 027 488 9236 or email me on I am based in Birkenhead, North Shore, Auckland.

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